Send DOUBT on over...
This may seem hard to believe considering how wonderful our DD experience has been going, but a couple of days ago, HoH (after a long day of us fighting) decided that we were not going to do DD anymore. Deep down, he was harboring a lot of guilt for those times that he has not made good decisions, about ongoing character deficits, or just his struggle in general with being a flawed human being, as we all are. He was feeling something like this: How can I punish my wife when she is a better person than me? How can I spank her for little things when I screw up all the time, too?
Me? I was devastated. I had a meeting that night, and I was completely distracted and upset. For the next day, I made no effort at all. I started to feel depressed. I tried to explain to HoH what made this what I wanted. I told him that it was special and unique to us as a couple. Something that we are bonding over. Something that we can already see improvements in our relationship. That it made me feel like he cared, loved me, and it gave me structure. That it made him step up in a way I have never seen him do before, and that made me proud and turned on.
Then I promptly posted the dilema on the Experience Project boards.
One person, Epaster, stated: